Translated literally, Memento Mori means “remember you will die.” While this may seem haunting, the meaning isn’t morbid, but rather an encouragement to honour and remember those who have passed before by living our own lives to the fullest.
The one thing that unites us all, no matter our background, is the fact that we will all die. It’s a truth that we all know, yet many of us are scared to face it head-on. This fear of mortality is what inspired the ancient practice of Memento Mori, which encourages us to reflect on our mortality and use it as a tool to make the most of each moment and enjoy the journey.
Montaigne said that “to practice death is to practice freedom. A man who has learned how to die has unlearned how to be a slave.” This is the essence of Memento Mori: to use the certainty of death as an opportunity to gain perspective and prioritize our lives. It’s not about being depressed or scared, but rather about recognizing the preciousness of life and not wasting it on trivial things.
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What is a Memento Mori?
According to Wikipedia, a Memento Mori is “an artistic or symbolic trope acting as a reminder of the inevitability of death.”
Common in religious contexts, a Memento Mori was most commonly symbolized with a skull.
Throughout time, many more objects were used to depict this concept such as coffins, wilting flowers, guttering candles, and hourglasses showing the passing of time.
History of Memento Mori
Since ancient times, people have been drawn to contemplate their mortality.
Democritus, the philosopher, sought to understand the world by retreating to solitude and exploring tombs. Plato’s Phaedo emphasizes that the pursuit of philosophy involves an intimate understanding of mortality, and is “about nothing else but dying and being dead”.
Though the concept of confronting our mortality predates this, it’s possible that the specific saying “Memento Mori” originates from a ceremony of Roman triumph where the conquering general would parade through town – followed by his faithful servant.
As the victorious general was hailed by the adoring public, the servant would stand close behind and speak the solemn reminder: “Memento mori” – Latin for “Remember death”.
This tradition served to remind the powerful of their mortality, so that they would not be corrupted by the glory of their triumphs. The servant’s words, “Respice post te! Hominem te esse memento! Memento mori!”, translated to “Look behind you! Remember that you are but a man! Remember that you will die!”, acted as a gentle yet powerful reminder that, despite all of life’s successes, death is inevitable.
Memento Mori in modern life
Memento mori has gone from being a primarily religious reminder to live a life of virtue to a modern-day version of carpe diem— a call to make the most of life while you can.
I first discovered Memento Mori while I was studying Fine Arts. A popular art form in the seventeenth century, Memento Mori and Vanitas were created as reminders of the transience of life.
At the time, I didn’t think of them much beyond artistic terms; studying the artists and techniques rather than applying the allegories to experiences in my own life.
Modern society tends to shy away from thoughts or discussions of death, but it’s a part of life that can’t be ignored. In our culture, we focus on staying young and acting as if nothing will ever change, but the truth is, life doesn’t last forever. We must all accept that death is inevitable and use it as an opportunity to appreciate our time on earth.
When my dad died and I was faced with the daunting task of cleaning out my childhood home, the house my dad had built and lived in for more than 40 years, the fleeting nature of life really hit home.
Both of my parents died before their time and, as I sifted through a lifetime of memories, I was surrounded by evidence of a life left unlived.
There were boxes and boxes of beautiful items being saved for a “special occasion”, carefully wrapped in tissue, price tags still in tact. These things would have brought joy and value to their lives, but any ordinary day wasn’t exceptional enough and so the boxes were left untouched.
Memento Mori reminds us that every day that we are alive is a special occasion – so live your life accordingly.
Take the trip. Use the “good” towels. Wear the fancy dress. Tell everyone you love them.
How to use Memento Mori as a Daily Reminder
Rather than being fearful of death, use Memento Mori to remind you not to take life for granted. Use every precious second so that, when your time comes, you can greet death without regret.
Memento Mori is a great reminder of “as I am, so shall you be”: an encouragement to honour and remember those who have passed before by living our own lives to the fullest.
Use this symbol as a connection to family and friends who have left this earth and a call to action to make the most of the time you have been given.
Memento Mori is a powerful reminder, so one way to use it is to place a visual representation where you will see and reflect on it often.
There are many examples of Memento Mori in art that you can hang in your home, or you can create a small altar with bones and other objects that you associate with life and death.
Memento Mori Pendant
My favourite way to use this symbol is to wear a Memento Mori necklace. Not only do I connect with the meaning as I put it on each day but I can see it every time I look in the mirror. Throughout the day, I can feel it’s weight around my neck and touch it when I need a reminder.
No matter how you decide to use Memento Mori, remember that it is not meant to cause sadness or worry. If you find the thought of your own death overly depressing or scary, take a step back and focus instead on the life you are living and how best to enjoy it.
It’s possible that your mortality concerns you only because you feel like you haven’t experienced all of the things you wanted to in life.
So start today, start NOW! Use your discomfort to motivate you to quit wasting your time on worry and start living the life you want today. Don’t wait – seize the moment and make it yours!
Wikipedia – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Memento_mori
The Tate – https://www.tate.org.uk/art/art-terms/m/memento-mori
The British Museum: IMAGE: Memento Mori Woodcut (Alexander Mair) – https://www.britishmuseum.org/collection/object/P_1893-1020-4
Rijksmuseum: IMAGE: Memento Mori Ring (Anonymous) – https://www.rijksmuseum.nl/nl/collectie/BK-2017-14